being a social animal human are dependent on others always.it begins the moment a human is born.the birth is a result of others effort.as one grows,the dependence on others is needed to survive.all of us are depending on others our whole life.as kids we depend on our parents for food,clothes,shelter and other things.as we grow our dependence become broader expanding to friends,relatives,colleagues and other external factors to achieve happiness in life.we generally look outside for happiness,expect others to give us desired happiness,the way we want it.happiness coming from these external sources bring with it some pain also which cannot be avoided.pain and disappointment cannot be filtered out from the happiness.when we look for happiness from people around us,we begin expecting from them,which makes the relationship conditional.we apply conditions and expect others to fulfil the same in the way we want it.and when we don't get what we expected we feel hurt, misunderstood, cheated, invalidated.
we forget or ignore the fact that everyone is a different individual with his/her own set of beliefs,morals,values and a certain way of life.knowing that no one can be exactly the same in character,we expect them to know on their own,to understand by themselves what we want from them,we begin to doubt the persons honesty in relationship when the person fail to do things the way we have in our minds.we start feeling unloved,uncared when that happens.
we don't try to see that the person is trying to give happiness in his/her own way.this often leads to negative feelings about the person which makes us angry,upset,sad towards the person who might not be aware that his/her actions are responsible for the negative feelings,the sudden change in our behavior makes them feel confused,eventually this confusion takes shape of argument and possibly break the relationship which could have been avoided through honest interaction.
instead of blaming others for the pain and distress we should look within ourselves.try to analyse the reason behind the situation,which is generally rooted to our own illogical expectations from others for which we keep blaming others whole life.we could be more considerate and respect others' feeling and individuality and accept with open heart their love and affection in their own way and be happy and content with life.
we forget or ignore the fact that everyone is a different individual with his/her own set of beliefs,morals,values and a certain way of life.knowing that no one can be exactly the same in character,we expect them to know on their own,to understand by themselves what we want from them,we begin to doubt the persons honesty in relationship when the person fail to do things the way we have in our minds.we start feeling unloved,uncared when that happens.
we don't try to see that the person is trying to give happiness in his/her own way.this often leads to negative feelings about the person which makes us angry,upset,sad towards the person who might not be aware that his/her actions are responsible for the negative feelings,the sudden change in our behavior makes them feel confused,eventually this confusion takes shape of argument and possibly break the relationship which could have been avoided through honest interaction.
instead of blaming others for the pain and distress we should look within ourselves.try to analyse the reason behind the situation,which is generally rooted to our own illogical expectations from others for which we keep blaming others whole life.we could be more considerate and respect others' feeling and individuality and accept with open heart their love and affection in their own way and be happy and content with life.
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